Monday, July 13, 2009

Frustration and Confusion Commence

We've sent in the pre-intake packet. Today we schedule our first (3 hour) interview. I'm a little wound up about the whole thing (not surprised, are you?). Most of my tension is just the weight of becoming a parent, but a little part of it is anxiety over the issues already popping up.

Upon reviewing our packet two major questions came up for the agency:
1- Do we understand that writing "any age" means that we would except a placement from hours old to 18?

2- Which program(s) are we interested in; foster, fost/adopt, adoption?

To address the fist question- YES. We get it and yes we'd be ok with an 18 year old. I know crazy, right? Actually wanting to house, care for, and love an older teenager. How dare we? (Do other people write: We would like a child who is 8 years, 7 months, and 16 days old please.)

And yes, I know that the needs of an infant and the needs of a teen are very different. I also know that we have lots of support and resources and willingness to figure out what our children need.

My reply (thank gd Len was the one actually on the phone giving a more polite response) "Well, you have three programs and gave us two options. And you're surprised the answer is unclear?" The form looked like this:
Which program are you interested in? ______Foster Care ________Adoption

Being most interested in the program that combines the two, we checked both.
This made sense to us, what's your problem?

I know it's really bad karma to put any negative energy toward this fist major interaction with the agency, but dear lord above!

Taking lots of deep breaths, thinking about our upcoming vacation, and knowing that things go the way they are meant to.

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