Screw This I'm Moving to Poland

So, I've figured out why adoption blogs, people in the adoption process, and people who have recently adopted are so off. Right, so I read and meet these folks and they seem slightly strange. For a long time I thought it was because adoption attracts strange people. People who would otherwise be collecting cats or presidential collectible plates or plates with cats on them. They talk to much, they talk about inappropriate things, and they are emotionally clingy.

Well, I may have been a presidential cat plate collector to begin with, but I've figured out that's not why adoptrents are so strange. Its because they are a highly,highly traumatized community. These are people who go through the process of almost maybe having a child- learning close details of the child, spending hours/days proving that they are worthy of the child, and preparing their home for the child- to be rejected.

I could write about the rejection and how that functions and how it's actually ok, but I have to go to clean up my kitchen. So, instead I'll take a minute to tell you a story about a recent interaction:

I had called an left a message for our case worker, she returned my call while I was driving from a meeting to a home visit. I was so elated that she rang that I pulled over into a parking lot. Sitting in a shaded spot, letting the a/c run I had a 12 minute conversation with her. I felt supported and heard. Sort of . . . among other things she said "I was impressed that CPS case workers pulled your file for a case staffing." Really? You were impressed? Because I'm fairly certain that a major part of your job is to make our family seem impressive to CPS case workers.d She did tell me that there are a number of kiddos that might be good fits and she would be sending on their information soon. I can't figure out if I'm a pain in the ass client who doesn't listen to or hear the expectations on me and has unreasonable espectations for the agency, or if my frustrations are legitimate. We'll see.